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New Here Needing Help At 330+ Pounds

Hey guys. I’m new here. I’ve always been lost on how to get in shape. I’ve searched up source after source and now with the help of AI, I asked which are free sources to help me get in shape. AI mentioned this as one of them and now, I’m here. So I am 330+ pounds and I’ve never had any clue how exactly to get in shape. People have told me walking and calorie deficit. I’m wondering which exercises to exactly do at this weight. With my body weight. With free weights. What exactly for me to do.
 
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Welcome!

Here at Darebee, weight is not a roadblock to getting active! This site is completely self directed and you do as much or as little as you're able at the time.

Some good resources to get you started are:

Introduction
Workout Manual

Most of Darebee's workouts don't require any equipment and uses gravity and your own muscles to get things going. If you're unsure of what direction you want to go with workouts, doing a program or challenge is a good place to start.

Foundation Light
Baseline
Square One

These three programs are all perfect for beginners and are easy on joints, and have various levels of difficulty so you can choose what feels best for you on each day.

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Welcome!

Here at Darebee, weight is not a roadblock to getting active! This site is completely self directed and you do as much or as little as you're able at the time.

Some good resources to get you started are:

Introduction
Workout Manual

Most of Darebee's workouts don't require any equipment and uses gravity and your own muscles to get things going. If you're unsure of what direction you want to go with workouts, doing a program or challenge is a good place to start.

Foundation Light
Baseline
Square One

These three programs are all perfect for beginners and are easy on joints, and have various levels of difficulty so you can choose what feels best for you on each day.

One of my biggest suggestions would be for you to start a check-in thread, just a spot to keep track of what you're doing, maybe your goals, whatever strikes your fancy. The Hive is super encouraging and can help you keep your motivation, support you through difficult times, and celebrate your successes!

There are other, more knowledgeable, members here who might be able to give you a little more concise information, but this should get you started at least :D
 
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Welcome to the site!

Lots of great advice has been posted already. I wanna add in, though, that the guides are a great source as well. I'd specifically suggest taking a glance at the following:

How to Start with Exercise if You're Overweight
How to Get Rid of Loose Skin after Weight Loss - Less to read more and more to bookmark and come back to probably, as this can definitely be a source of frustration
Walking Strategy for Weightloss
Why We Lose Motivation and How to Get it Back
How to Lose Weight

There's more, but that's probably enough homework for the moment, lol. This site has been amazing for my own personal journey, so I hope it works out well for you as well. From my experience, it's been most important to figure out two things.

1.) Why you're doing it. The stronger a reason, the better. This can help you stay motivated even when you don't want to do it. (Like, one of my main whys has been that I want to be able to lift and swing my nephew around again, even though he's a teenager, haha.)

2.) Find a way to make it enjoyable. If you enjoy it, you'll look forward to it. If you hate it or see it as a chore, it'll be harder to motivate yourself to it. That may be finding an exercise you like, finding a challenge to try and "win," maybe figuring out a reward. Whatever it is, the more fun, the better. For me, journaling on here has helped me out because I don't want to say that I skipped my workout, haha. Though when they do events, I'm super motivated to push myself and actually look forward to it.

Best of luck to you!
 
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Not good for me at all like it always has been for me sadly.
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Hey, it's not even been two weeks! Give it a go. I'll bet it took you more than two weeks to gain all that weight. Take it easy, develop good and comfortable habits, and importantly, get to enjoy what you do. Look for activities that bring you joy, any movements that you find pleasant to do - dancing when nobody's home (or when people are home if that works for you!). Do quarter-squats while brushing your teeth, calf raises while waiting for the kettle to boil.

One of the things that perhaps too many people do when trying to lose weight is that they drop their calories too low. All that does is make you miserable and slows your metabolism. Ensure you eat enough and eat well. Prioritise protein - I aim for 2g per kilo of bodyweight. Don't always get there, but I aim. :LOL: Add good fats, and minimise highly processed foods. Start small, start slow, and build up over time.

And if you keep having probems - or even if you don't - you could consider starting your own log here, detailing what you're doing so you can keep a track of it, and asking for further advice if or when you need it.
 
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Hey, it's not even been two weeks! Give it a go. I'll bet it took you more than two weeks to gain all that weight. Take it easy, develop good and comfortable habits, and importantly, get to enjoy what you do. Look for activities that bring you joy, any movements that you find pleasant to do - dancing when nobody's home (or when people are home if that works for you!). Do quarter-squats while brushing your teeth, calf raises while waiting for the kettle to boil.

One of the things that perhaps too many people do when trying to lose weight is that they drop their calories too low. All that does is make you miserable and slows your metabolism. Ensure you eat enough and eat well. Prioritise protein - I aim for 2g per kilo of bodyweight. Don't always get there, but I aim. :LOL: Add good fats, and minimise highly processed foods. Start small, start slow, and build up over time.

And if you keep having probems - or even if you don't - you could consider starting your own log here, detailing what you're doing so you can keep a track of it, and asking for further advice if or when you need it.
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I will consider doing this. I talked over this after sharing this struggle of mine to others on another platform like I have in the past on other platforms. Luckily, those that I just talked to over this are also supportive like you guys are here. I’m glad that you’re also telling me how a diet shouid be. I like that there’s a website like this one that focuses on diet. I struggle with binge eating processed foods late at night and I’m always on my phone while watching explicit things. Addictions of mine which cause me not to sleep at night. Some days I try. Some days I completely fall off. My mom finds out and gets mad at me as a result discovering I ate some high processed foods from the fridge. I’m going to look around this website and the other one that focuses on diet.
 
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Another thing is to have more than just the number on the scale be your metric.

For me, one of my big metrics when I really started this push last August was my hip/waist ratio, while the number on my scale hasn't moved near as much as I'd like, my hip/waist ratio is much closer to where I'd like it to be.

Some bodies don't drop weight very easily, but they drop inches (This is the boat I'm in), so giving yourself different goals, even something as simple as... walking around the block every day, can help keep you going.

I used to just watch the scale and get upset when it didn't seem like I was progressing, then my Hubby pointed out that I wasn't complaining about my knee hurting so much, and he and I had gone on a long walk and I didn't have to stop to catch my breath.

Health is more than just a number on the scale, and giving yourself more things to strive for can really help keep you going.

You've made it two weeks and that's amazing!!

:tuzki-love:
 
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@Help_Me When I broke my arm, I was told that for every week I was in a cast, to expect two weeks for rehab. If you consider what you are trying to do with your body as a sort of rehabilitation, first accept that this will, unfortunately, take some time. Everyone wants a quick fix but that can't happen. At least, you can do something extreme, but it would not be good for your health, you certainly would not enjoy it, and ultimately it wouldn't stick. Slow and steady will make it less uncomfortable and you'll be more likely to stick with it.
The first thing I'd say to do is look at just one thing to change. One small thing. Perhaps you could drink more water or tea to replace sugar-ladened drinks. Simple enough to swap out even just one. Then two. And so on. A small habit but a painless one really.
One way to stop eating highly processed foods at night is simply not to have any in the house. That one is hard at first, I'll admit, but if you haven't got it, you can't eat it. Bring in some other snacks. Air popped popcorn is nice, but for me, I still prefer it with some melted butter poured over it. Is it the best? Probably not, but it's better than highly processed snacks. Small changes.
You can do this. Perhaps you think you can't because you've tried before and you've failed. That's no reason to give up. A little baby falls on its bottom so often when trying to walk but doesn't give up, even though it fails time and again. You've got people (real and virtual) who can help you on this journey.
 
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Adding onto the others, I'd recommend changing the frame of reference. Instead of looking at the short term, look more long term. In that sense, 2 weeks is a very short time. You want a routine you can stick with for a long time, even if the effects are slow. And that doesn't mean it's done perfectly. It's okay to miss days or mess up. But the point is to try again each time.
 
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