The Other Side

[DorothyMH]

Fri, Jan 17, 2025

AM- Awake at 7am (PST) after nearly 9 hours of sleep; the last couple hours were neither solid nor sound, however…
Outside is mostly sunny, frozen, 25 (F) degrees feels like 19… this depth of cold makes my old eyes water when the air hits them

• Journaling
• Reading: The 36-Hour Day (a family guide to caring for people with dementia), by Nancy L, Mace, MA and Peter V. Rabins, MD, MPH

Mobility/warmups-

• Spiky ball roll on hands/arms
• Wrist extension/flexion
• Shoulder mobility w/pvc pipe
• BaoDing balls
• Fighting Cancer: EotD- 30 knee strikes

Cooldown/Stretch-

• LaCrosse ball roll upper body
• Foam-rolling back/lower body

• Reading: Reading: Genghis Khan by Harold Lamb, 1927
• NYT puzzle page
• Yard Clean up
• Doggo walk

Noonish- unplanned rest day…. feeling awfully anxious about the whole mom-thing. Lawyer told husb yesterday that even tho she is demented, she retains the right to consent as to where she wants to live and how much help she receives. The only way around this is if she breaks the law, police are called, or she physically breaks, so that a physician says she cannot go back to her home. There was more, but this was enough to be disturbing. So…. my job now is to detach myself from my husb’s *business* with regard to this, so that I can stop wringing my hands about when the next shoe will drop.And don’t get me started about the other shoe of the incoming administration on Monday

• House chore
• Quilting
• Dinner prep

PM-

• Nap
• Doggo walk
• Down Dog Yoga-Jan Daily Challenge: 20 min vinyasa practice

 

[Laura Rainbow Dragon]

Noonish- unplanned rest day…. feeling awfully anxious about the whole mom-thing. Lawyer told husb yesterday that even tho she is demented, she retains the right to consent as to where she wants to live and how much help she receives. The only way around this is if she breaks the law, police are called, or she physically breaks, so that a physician says she cannot go back to her home. There was more, but this was enough to be disturbing. So…. my job now is to detach myself from my husb’s *business* with regard to this, so that I can stop wringing my hands about when the next shoe will drop.

I'm so sorry, @DorothyMH . I ran into this issue multiple times with my father refusing medical help that he needed. And sure: it's the person who's ill who suffers physically for refusing the help. But it's the people around them who suffer mentally and emotionally and end up sacrificing boatloads of time in their efforts to try to avert disasters. I'm wishing for your family continued strength, and for you, yeah: some success in finding detachment. Because you cannot change your MIL or the law.

And don’t get me started about the other shoe of the incoming administration on Monday

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[DorothyMH]

I'm so sorry, @DorothyMH . I ran into this issue multiple times with my father refusing medical help that he needed. And sure: it's the person who's ill who suffers physically for refusing the help. But it's the people around them who suffer mentally and emotionally and end up sacrificing boatloads of time in their efforts to try to avert disasters. I'm wishing for your family continued strength, and for you, yeah: some success in finding detachment. Because you cannot change your MIL or the law.



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Thank you; I know you know whereof you speak (write) on both topics. It helps to vent….. I have one elderly friend who has continually advised me to “make my husb promise to bring her this time….” Well, hells bells, I can’t make him do anything of the sort, and it’s crazy to think I could. Besides, he lives his ethical code as a (retired) physician and son of a lawyer would: strictly legal. And, my step mom does the same harassing: “trick her or drug her,” she says. Nope, nope and nope. Oof

 

[DorothyMH]

Sat, Jan 18, 2025

AM- awake at 6:30am (PST) after 8ish hours of unsettled sleep
Outside is clear, dry, frozen, 24 (F)degrees feels like 16

• Journaling
• Yard Clean up
• Doggo walk
• NYT puzzle page

Mobility/warmups-

• Spiky ball roll on hands/arms
• Wrist extension/flexion
• Shoulder mobility w/pvc pipe
• BaoDing balls
• Fighting Cancer: EotD- 20 lunge punches

Cooldown/Stretch-

• LaCrosse ball roll upper body
• Foam-rolling back/lower body

Noonish-

• DareBee Universal Warm-up
• DareBee Challenge: Standing Abs, Day 17 + 18
• DareBee program: Total Body Strength Plus+, Day 17 + 18
• DareBee FarPoint (Cool-Down)

PM-

• Reading: Reading: Genghis Khan by Harold Lamb, 1927
• Reading: The 36-Hour Day (a family guide to caring for people with dementia), by Nancy L, Mace, MA and Peter V. Rabins, MD, MPH

• Quilting
• Nap
• House chore
• Dinner prep
• Doggo walk
• Down Dog Yoga-Jan Daily Challenge: 15 min restorative practice

 

[DorothyMH]

Sun, Jan 19, 2025

AM- awake at 7:45am (PST) after 9 hours in a horizontal position, but NOT that many hours asleep. Yesterday, I did have some reprieve from the anxiety with an hour + of quilting, along with an extended workout to catch up on my DareBee program and challenge. I could definitely stand more of all of that to help distract me…..
Outside, is mostly cloudy, 28 (F)degrees feels like 21️; the lake is freezing up

• Journaling
• Yard Clean up
• Doggo walk
• NYT puzzle page

Mobility/warmups- planned REST DAY

Noonish-

• DareBee Universal Warm-up
• DareBee Challenge: Standing Abs, Day 19
• DareBee program: Total Body Strength Plus +, Day 19
• DareBee FarPoint (Cool-Down)

PM-

• Reading: Reading: Genghis Khan by Harold Lamb, 1927
• Reading: The 36-Hour Day (a family guide to caring for people with dementia), by Nancy L, Mace, MA and Peter V. Rabins, MD, MPH
• Nap
• House chore
• Doggo walk
• Quilting
• Down Dog Yoga-Jan Daily Challenge: 20 min flexibility practice
• Dinner prep