@J_o_h_n just that, right there, is most probably the hardest thing to do for reasons that I will explain in a minute. The fact that you have made gains regardless deserves enormous praise for your dedication and focus. I will get to your real question about stretching but let's examine how the body actually works first.
There is a finite amount of energy the body has to allocate each day for:
- Living and carrying out everyday tasks
- Repairing tissue
- Destroying tissue
- Building tissue
Assuming you did nothing each day you'd still need between 2,200 - 3,200 calories to just stay alive. When we exercise we increase that energy expenditure somewhat (but by a relatively small amount that ranges, on average, between 180 and 320 calories per hour of exercise. But where the real change happens is in how, afterwards the body reallocates the energy it has left.
To illustrate this better, suppose the body has just 10 units of energy to use each day. And 5 of those units get 'eaten up' by the daily tasks of breathing, moving about, carrying out chores, digesting food and maintaining normal body temperature. That leaves just 5 units for everything else. Now, building strength and lean muscle mass, building cardiovascular endurance and increasing muscle/tendon flexibility are wildly different activities each of which necessitates similar tasks for the body to carry out:
- Repairing tissue
- Destroying tissue
- Building tissue
But in a different way, to different parts of the body and at a different energetic cost. When you exercise as you do, progress is made, especially when you are starting from a relatively low base line, but it is made incrementally so seeing improvements is always slower. By far this explains the best why you have not seen a lot of improvement in flexibility.
As you probably appreciate getting you over this hump you experience in flexibility while you are doing all the other things you're doing would require a personalized, tailored workout with a specific diet and, most important of all, specific rest times and adequate quality sleep. Lacking all that what you need is a more accessible solution to your training. I would advise cutting out the aerobic component right now, no HIIT, no running or rowing, but instead using that time to do walking (like treadmill walking for an hour at a pace that is at the very limit of comfortable, you will need to experiment with this a little) and then adding 10 - 15 minutes of stretching to the end of every workout.
You will find that you get to your overall fitness goals faster this way for reasons which I could explain but would need to write a small book in order to do the explanation justice
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Think how you can change what you do to do this and, as you make progress it'd be awesome if you could share it in a
progress log, with The Hive. I suspect it will motivate and inspire Hive members further plus it will give you a handy way to mark progress over time. I hope my answer above is useful but please come back with any follow-up question you need.