Thank you very much
@Tileenah @TopNotch @BetaCorvi @NancyTree @TheLibrarian @Fremen @HellYeah! It's so nice to come back to supportive messages.
So... I went to my sister's on Friday and we drove to my mother's apartment on Saturday to begin clearing it out.
Step 1: make it liveable. Step 2: get rid of obvious trash. Step 3: try our best to clear even one room.
Final score: bathroom done, hallway 3/4 done, kitchen 1/2 done.
No lie, I cleaned three kitchens over the weekend, WTF. I also took more supportive roles - driving, cooking, shopping, etc. so my sister could focus on a) visiting our mother and making her comfortable, and b) making decisions.
We now have until the end of May to get everything out, stored, distributed, sold, recycled or thrown out, so there will be quite a few more weekends (and longer periods) like this.
I changed my meal plan to fit what was available and what my sister eats - unexpected consequence, my digestion got better(??!) so I may need to rethink my mostly plant-based plan as well, how annoying! (Well, it's all data, I guess...)
and I did not find the time or the space to work out, although overall of course we were very active.
I've been trying to figure out what I should do for the next three months so that I can make progress on my goals and stay healthy, but not create extra stress when I'm unable to stick to plans, habits and workout streaks. With my work and life admin, I'm resigned to doing as much as I can when I can, so maybe a similar approach? I think I'll just report what I manage to do... and try to get out for walks on desk work days, as long as my tendon doesn't get too sore again.
At least there's no family stress (yet?): my sister and I are a good team and there's positive contact with one of our brothers. Please wish us luck in getting through this with everyone's sanity intact!