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Laura Rainbow Dragon

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"Striving to be the change."
Thank you @Syrius @CODawn @Maegaranthelas

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@Lady Celerity @Syrius : DWW days are great! I like to have a structured workout plan, because I do want to maintain (and continue to build) well-rounded fitness and full body strength. (I would totally neglect the upper body work if I just did what I wanted every day.) But at the same time: I'm not training for the Olympics. So I think the occasional play day is fine. And they keep the work from feeling like too much of a grind.
 

Laura Rainbow Dragon

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"Striving to be the change."
January 18:

Cardinal Points:
First Thing Water: :v:
10 Minutes of Mindfulness: :v: - shavasana
Dance / Yoga: :v: - Quiet Room
Gratitude: :v:

Group of Seven:
hands & wrists: :v: - clench/unclench, wrist circles
calf raises: :v: - one-legged calf raises
plank: :v: - Plank Hero
feathered peacock: :v: - one-legged dolphin
hip flexors: :v: - Standing Abs
hip abductors: :v: - side-lying leg lifts
glutes: :v: - Plank Hero

Programs & Challenges:
Daily Hug: :v:
Push & Pull: :v: - push-ups
Total Body Strength: Day 17
Standing Abs: Day 17
Plank Hero: Day 17

Mileage:
running: :x:
tempo runs / alt cardio: 3/3
interval training: 1/2

hiking: 7.2 km

Writing:
PARSEC monthly meeting: a very interesting talk re: all sorts of practices for sustainable living.
Also some reading of a book on making a living as an artist.

writing days this week: 3/4
writing time: 3:25/8 hours
artwork: 10 min. sketching
artwork days this week: 3/4

Targets will normally be 5 days/week for both artwork and writing content creation, and 10 hours/week for writing content creation. They're reduced this week due to officially taking Monday as a holiday.

French:
Fluenz

Scheduling Habits:
GOBOT: :rstar:
SOOT: :rstar::rstar::rstar:
GBOT: :rstar::rstar:
GR: :rstar::rstar:

Cumulative Habit Scores:
SOOT: 11
GBOT: 12
Gaming Rules: 14

Streaks:
Consecutive days of working out: 132
Consecutive days of French study: 1524
 

FlowersandPetals

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"For God so loved the world that He gave His only Son, that everyone who believes in Him will not perish, but have eternal life. John 3:16"
Today's change of leadership is extremely dark, dangerous, and terrifying for many.
I disagree. And I don’t think all of us Americans in this community think today’s change of leadership believes the same as you. I appreciate your caring. I think we’re gonna be fine- or even better. While I don’t agree with everything about the new leaders, I’m pretty optimistic about it.
 

Laura Rainbow Dragon

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I disagree. And I don’t think all of us Americans in this community think today’s change of leadership believes the same as you.
I did not say all. I said many. Political contests always result in winners and losers. They always result in some people being unhappy with the result. But certainly never before in my lifetime has a US presidential contest resulted in the election of an individual who has repeatedly threatened to wield his political power to criminally prosecute people who have committed no crimes and for whom there is no evidence they have committed any crimes, simply because those people were doing their jobs and/or opposed him politically. Certainly never before in my lifetime, and I believe never before in the history of your country, has an outgoing president felt the need to issue a long list of preemptive pardons to people who not only have never been convicted of any crimes but in fact have not even been charged with any crimes, to protect them from the wrath of the incoming president. Trump's threats against these individuals are not a matter of belief or opinion. They are documented fact. A great many people are deeply concerned by this. (Amongst other things.)
 

FlowersandPetals

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"For God so loved the world that He gave His only Son, that everyone who believes in Him will not perish, but have eternal life. John 3:16"
I did not say all. I said many. Political contests always result in winners and losers. They always result in some people being unhappy with the result. But certainly never before in my lifetime has a US presidential contest resulted in the election of an individual who has repeatedly threatened to wield his political power to criminally prosecute people who have committed no crimes and for whom there is no evidence they have committed any crimes, simply because those people were doing their jobs and/or opposed him politically. Certainly never before in my lifetime, and I believe never before in the history of your country, has an outgoing president felt the need to issue a long list of preemptive pardons to people who not only have never been convicted of any crimes but in fact have not even been charged with any crimes, to protect them from the wrath of the incoming president. Trump's threats against these individuals are not a matter of belief or opinion. They are documented fact. A great many people are deeply concerned by this. (Amongst other things.

What you’re calling facts actually aren’t. There’s so much you don’t know or understand. Americans have suffered too much the past 4 years. I will not go any further. I am considering stepping away from this community because of this. I know I’m in the minority being a born again Christian and a conservative but I really enjoyed this community up to this point, and doing my best to stay away from politics. I was a huge fan of this site for many years before joining. I’ve tried to be kind and respectful of our differences.

Take care.
 

Sólveig

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"ᚨ Ars longa, vita brevis"
What you’re calling facts actually aren’t. There’s so much you don’t know or understand. Americans have suffered too much the past 4 years. I will not go any further. I am considering stepping away from this community because of this. I know I’m in the minority being a born again Christian and a conservative but I really enjoyed this community up to this point, and doing my best to stay away from politics. I was a huge fan of this site for many years before joining. I’ve tried to be kind and respectful of our differences.

Take care.

This will be more medicine than sugar, so I'll be that girl: you are entitled to leave if you do not feel comfortable around here anymore, but before you do, here's something to think about: we all have different opinions on the matter, but we shouldn't think about this as a matter of who is in the majority or the minority, because we'll never agree on anything. Trust me, there are things I disagree with you, and I mentioned them in my log... just last Friday, but running away is not going to make anything better for you on the long run because that's how people get polarized in the first place: when they see something that questions their beliefs, they run. Again, you don't need to engage with the opposing view, but just think about what you see and ask yourself "how is this person's point of view going to affect my life," or "how could I use this to be a better Christian," or, even simpler, ask yourself the meme: "what would Jesus do." You're right: the Hive has no place for political discussions, but that doesn't mean we won't get political in our logs because, at one point or another, it will happen. Again, you don't have to interact with everything, and you are entitled to leave if that's what you desire, but before you do, at least have this to think about.
 

Laura Rainbow Dragon

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"Striving to be the change."
January 19:

Cardinal Points:
First Thing Water: :v:
10 Minutes of Mindfulness: :v: - shavasana
Dance / Yoga: :v: - Quiet Room
Gratitude: :v:

Group of Seven:
hands & wrists: :v: - Talk to the Hand
calf raises: :v: - Ankle Recovery
plank: :v: - Plank Hero
feathered peacock: :v: - dolphin
hip flexors: :v: - power jump HIIT*
hip abductors: :v: - kicking HIIT*
glutes: :v: - Total Body Strength

Programs & Challenges:
Daily Hug: :v:
Push & Pull: :v: - back work in TBS
Total Body Strength: Day 18
Standing Abs: Day 18
Plank Hero: Day 18

Mileage:
running: HIIT workout*
tempo runs / alt cardio: 3/3
interval training: 2/2

hiking: 9 km

* I needed to do a HIIT workout this day to hit my weekly goal for interval training. And I saw that @Damer had just released a new video with training tips for how to achieve one's power jump. Since this is an exercise I want to work on achieving, it was a perfect fit for this day's training! I did one Tabata of the camel thrusts exercise and one of the kneeling-to-squatting stepping exercise from Damer's video. Then I did a third Tabata of kicks (2 sets each of front, side, turning, and hook kicks). Doing those power jump training exercises in the Tabata format was no joke! I think I will keep them as a regular (maybe once a week) part of my training for a bit. See how that goes.

Writing:
Just a wee bit of brainstorming story ideas.

writing days this week: 4/4
writing time: 3:30/8 hours
artwork: 15 min. sketching
artwork days this week: 4/4

Days/week targets were hit for this week, but not my butt-in-chair hours for content creation. I did do a fair bit of other writing-related work. And sure: I had other non-writing related tasks I needed to attend to this week. But I really need to be hitting my content creation hours. And the reason I missed this week was not due to the other things I needed to get done. It was due to all the time I spent gaming.

I need to work on this! Gaming has become my stress-relieving activity. (Especially during these winter months when it's not so easy to just take Shelby for a walk to a nice forested area.) But the level of stress in my life these days is not enough to warrant the amount of gaming I have been doing. So I need to make a change.

French:
Fluenz

Scheduling Habits:
GOBOT: :x:
SOOT: :rstar::rstar::rstar:
GBOT: :rstar::rstar:
GR: :x:

Cumulative Habit Scores:
SOOT: 14
GBOT: 14
Gaming Rules: 0

I decided that if I don't hit my content creation hours target for the week due to solo gaming, my gaming rules score for the week needs to be zero. Hence why that score got zeroed here.

Streaks:
Consecutive days of working out: 133
Consecutive days of French study: 1525
 

Laura Rainbow Dragon

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In other news: Miss Shelby got herself a new vet today!

We haven't actually met the vet yet. Shelby's health is good, and she isn't due for a check-up or vaccines or any other routine stuff until June. But she is an older dog. And I'm limited as to which vets I can take her to due to no longer having access to a car. So I wanted to get her signed up as a patient somewhere now, so I'll have someone I can call in the event anything does go awry with Shelby's health.

On Saturday I was talking to another dog-walker in our neighbourhood, and mentioned needing to find Shelby a local vet. She recommended a place that is only 800 metres from our home. So I decided we'd check them out today. The office staff at this clinic were very friendly and helpful, and they got answers for me for my most important questions:

1. Will this clinic prescribe and stock for Shelby the parasite control meds she's been taking for the past decade? She's an old dog. I don't want to switch her to new drugs at this point in her life when I know she responds so well to the old ones.

And:

2. Will the staff do routine medical procedures--like physical exams, drawing blood, administering vaccines, etc. in the exam room with me by Shelby's side? Shelby is a very brave girl! She makes no fuss over being poked and prodded and stuck with needles. Her old vets always commented to me on what a great patient she is! But the one thing that does upset her is being separated from me. Our vets in the BM understood this and kept her in the exam room with me. But I know some clinics prefer to separate animals from their humans for certain medical procedures.

The answers were positive in both cases. This clinic regularly prescribes one of the meds Shelby takes. The other they do not normally stock but can and will prescribe and order it for Shelby if that's what I want. On the matter of Shelby remaining with me for her treatments I was told this was no problem. The clinic does sometimes take dogs "into the back" to draw blood. But they have no problem doing it in the exam room if that is my preference. (The office person said she would make a note on Shelby's file to this effect and that if a vet tech ever did try to take Shelby away I could simply tell them I preferred for Shelby to remain with me, and they would accommodate my wishes no problem.)

So yeah! Another moving thing taken care of, and I think a good place found for my #1 girl.
 

Laura Rainbow Dragon

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Saw an ad today for a 220 square foot studio apartment in my neighbourhood, asking $1400 + electricity a month. Which the landlord, sadly, will likely actually be able to get.

The ad suggests the apartment is 350 square feet. But it includes a floor plan. And if you do the math on the floor plan, it adds up to 220 square feet, not 350.

The ad says the unit includes a "full" bathroom. But it only has a 3-piece. (More and more often these days I am seeing ads for apartments with no bathtub that nevertheless make this claim about having a "full" bathroom.) In this case the ad actually reads: "Full Bathroom: Gorgeous and modern, perfect for relaxing after a long day." (Emphasis mine.) Perfect for relaxing? Really? You know a lot of humans who like to relax standing up, do you?

Of the kitchen the ad says: "Stylish Kitchen: Sleek, updated kitchen with everything you need."
The kitchen has no dishwasher. It has only a single sink. It has less counter space than even my tiny kitchen. And no space in which one could possibly add any furniture of one's own.

The add claims the unit is: "Bright & Airy: Big windows let in plenty of natural light."
The apartment in truth has two windows, neither of which I would classify as "big", and one of which is in the bathroom!

"This cozy and super functional studio apartment is located on the second floor and offers everything you need for comfortable living," says the ad. (Again: emphasis mine.)
Everything? Really?

The door to the apartment opens directly into the only room in which one could possibly put a bed. This room is smaller than either of the bedrooms in my apartment. And it would need to serve as bedroom and living room and dining room.
You're coming inside from a Canadian winter, dressed in a heavy coat and a hat and mittens, and boots that are covered in snow. And you've got no coat closet and are going to need to put your boot tray in your bedroom.

And it's a second-floor apartment with no balcony.

:bigcry:
 

Laura Rainbow Dragon

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That's outrageous!
Yup.

I can almost guarantee this was originally a three bedroom apartment that got cleaved into a one-bedroom and a studio because the vacancy rate is so low here the landlord felt confident they'd be able to rent out two shitty units for more money than one decent one.
 

princess_sarena

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"“We both know that there are real monsters. But there’s also real heroes that fight monsters. And that’s me” - Buffy"
So yeah! Another moving thing taken care of, and I think a good place found for my #1 girl.
Awwwwwww that's sweet! Sounds like really good customer service. I'm glad you found a place willing to work with you to make sure she's well cared for!
 

Laura Rainbow Dragon

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Awwwwwww that's sweet! Sounds like really good customer service. I'm glad you found a place willing to work with you to make sure she's well cared for!
Thank you! Me too!

Shelby's vets in the BM were so awesome. I was not happy about having to leave them. And I definitely had anxiety over the need to find Shelby a new vet here. I needed someone close by, due to not having a car anymore. And so many people got dogs during the pandemic, some vets now (including the vets who we used in the BM) are not accepting new patients currently because their practices are full. So I worried about running into that problem here too. And I had first hand experience that not all vets are awesome.

The vets that the rescue from which we adopted Shelby use are awful. I had to make multiple trips there with dogs we were fostering for the rescue (including Trudy, who I ended up adopting), and I can say nothing good about them. They are in the habit of separating your animal from you the second you walk into the building. Before you've even made it to the reception desk to check in, a vet tech is there dragging your pet away. They do all procedures behind closed doors and don't even speak to the humans until they're done.

I had to take Trudy there to be speyed. They immediately whisked her away from me. "Go home. We'll call you when we're done." But when I went back to pick her up they said, "Oh, she can't leave. She's dehydrated and hypothermic." Because they had tried to cut corners so had not given her an IV for the surgery!

I insisted on seeing Trudy. And she was so relieved to see me! She was weak, but wagging her tail, licking me, leaning into me. She did not want to leave my side!

I asked them to show me how to work the IV (that they now wanted to give her) so I could take her home. But she wasn't legally my dog at that point in time. So the vets called the person who ran the rescue, and she accepted their advice that Trudy needed to stay at the clinic. But I could not stay with her. Because the clinic was closing for the night and had no overnight staff!

They made a poor, sick, frightened dog stay alone in a cage overnight so they could give her an IV and a heating blanket she would not have needed if they'd just taken care of her properly during the surgery to begin with!

Thankfully, Trudy survived that night, and I went back to pick her up the next morning. When I got her home and examined her I discovered that not only had they shaved her belly (necessary for the surgery) and three of her legs (one for the IV I could understand, but why three?) but they had cut her at every site they had shaved! Multiple big nasty red gashes everywhere. WTF? I did not realize right away that they had also shaved and cut her neck.

Because rescue dogs are a high flight risk, the rescue asks fosters to keep their foster dog's collars on them at all times. So I did not discover Trudy's neck cuts until they got infected and puss from her infected wounds leaked out around the edges of her collar.

Then, to make matters worse, the vet had done a shit job of stitching Trudy up after her surgery. Her wound re-opened. And I had to take her back to be re-stitched.
I was not happy! First, the vet tried to blame me for the problem. He said I had let her lick the wound. (Uh, no. We kept the Elizabeth collar on her so she couldn't lick it, and she was with either me or my mother 100% of the time, so was never left unsupervised.) Then I insisted on going back into the surgery with her. Trudy was terrified of being separated from me by those people, and there was no way I was going to let them butcher her again! But when I got back into the surgery it quickly became obvious that the vet techs were not going to be able to work with me there. They were not used to being watched, and it made them very nervous.

Trudy was the gentlest dog ever. She was a big, goofy, loving Golden Retriever who didn't have an aggressive bone in her body. (She did not even respond with aggression when other dogs who we met on the street growled or snarled at her. Instead, she would run behind me and hide!) But these vet techs, instead of being gentle with Trudy and coaxing her to do what they wanted, ganged up on her. Three of them worked together to manhandle Trudy and physically restrain her. And then they had the nerve to tell me Trudy was upset because she could sense that I was nervous.

I wasn't nervous. I was frakking angry! But the vet techs were definitely nervous, knowing that I was there watching them and judging them. So I left the surgery in the hope that might enable them to get the job done and just hoped Trudy's trauma would be over quickly.

When I ended up adopting Trudy, you better believe I swore to her she would never have to go back to those horrible vets ever again!

So yeah: I was worried about needing to find a new vet for Shelby. Would I be able to find her a wonderful medical team like the one we left behind in the BM? Or would the only vets in my neighbourhood be horrible, like the clinic the rescue in Chatham used? So I was very happy when we received the enthusiastic and unreserved recommendation for this nearby clinic from a neighbour, and relieved when we went to check them out and everything seems to gel with what we were told.

The last couple of years have been very hard on Shelby. First with losing Trudy, then my father, then my mother (who's still alive and actually a little bit improved physically--but Shelby doesn't know this), and then needing to move house under extremely stressful circumstances and leaving behind all of Shelby's old friends in the BM. And Shelby was my rock through all of that. I want her to have the best possible life I can give her now for whatever time she has left!
 

Laura Rainbow Dragon

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"Striving to be the change."
January 20:

Cardinal Points:
First Thing Water: :v:
10 Minutes of Mindfulness: :v: - moving meditation, shavasana
Dance / Yoga: :v: - Quiet Room
Gratitude: :v:

Group of Seven:
hands & wrists: :v: - clench/unclench, wrist circles
calf raises: :v: - one-legged calf raises
plank: :v: - Plank Hero
feathered peacock: :v: - dolphin
hip flexors: :v: - Standing Abs
hip abductors: :v: - Plank Hero
glutes: :v: - Total Body Strength

Programs & Challenges:
Daily Hug: :v:
Push & Pull: :x:
Total Body Strength: Day 19
Standing Abs: Day 19
Plank Hero: Day 19

Mileage:
running: :x:
tempo runs / alt cardio: 0/3
interval training: 0/2

hiking: 7.9 km

Writing:
Correspondence. Nothing to do with my fiction writing. But important.

writing days this week: 0/5
writing time: 0/10 hours
artwork: :x:
artwork days this week: 0/5

French:
reading

Scheduling Habits:
GOBOT: :rstar:
SOOT: :x: (-7)
GBOT: :x: (-5)
GR: :rstar::rstar::rstar:

Cumulative Habit Scores:
SOOT: 7
GBOT: 9
Gaming Rules: 3

Streaks:
Consecutive days of working out: 134
Consecutive days of French study: 1526
 
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Laura Rainbow Dragon

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"Striving to be the change."
January 21:

Cardinal Points:
First Thing Water: :v:
10 Minutes of Mindfulness: :v: - lots of contemplation this day, fighting anger, despair, and the urge to give certain people a piece of my mind in socially inappropriate ways
Dance / Yoga: :x: - restorative*
Gratitude: :v:

* Haven't actually done this yet. It's almost 7:30 AM here. I have not gone to bed yet. I will do some stretches in bed when I finally go there. (There's meant to be at least one song involved in this. But that might improve my mood, and I prefer to sit with my anger for a bit longer.) Stretching did not happen. I just went to bed.

Group of Seven:
hands & wrists: :v: - clench/unclench, wrist circles
calf raises: :v: - one-legged calf raises
plank: :v: - Plank Hero
feathered peacock: :v: - dolphin
hip flexors: :v: - Total Body Strength
hip abductors: :v: - side-lying leg lifts
glutes: :v: - prone leg lifts

Programs & Challenges:
Daily Hug: :v:
Push & Pull: :x:
Total Body Strength: Day 20
Standing Abs: Day 20
Plank Hero: Day 20

Mileage:
running: :x:
tempo runs / alt cardio: 0/3
interval training: 0/2

hiking: 6 km

Still so cold out.

Writing:
Correspondence. Nothing to do with my fiction writing. But important.

writing days this week: 0/5
writing time: 0/10 hours
artwork: :x:
artwork days this week: 0/5

French:
Fluenz

Scheduling Habits:
GOBOT: :rstar:
SOOT: :x:
GBOT: :x:
GR: :x:

Cumulative Habit Scores:
SOOT: 7
GBOT: 9
Gaming Rules: 3

Got up early to put the garbage out. The truck came by. Worker picked up my compost bin. Undid the latch. Presumably heaved bin in the general direction of their truck. Then tossed my bin onto the ground. I went to retrieve it and discovered all of my compost was still inside the bin. Lovely.
:giveup:

Had some breakfast.
Took Shelby for a very chilly walk.
Went back to bed.
Long nap.
Fed Shelby dinner.
Probably ate something myself.
Another walk with Shelby.
Read the news.

:onfire::bigcry::flat:

Spent a lot of time trying to convince myself I need to be the change I want to see in the world.
A lot of time.
Still not feeling it.

Streaks:
Consecutive days of working out: 135
Consecutive days of French study: 1527
 
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Laura Rainbow Dragon

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Thank you for the support friends.

I have had some sleep.

In the calmer light of day I still feel largely impotent in the face of great evil. However, as I was falling asleep (this morning!) I remembered that I am not in this alone. Of course I cannot hold back the tide of hatred by myself! But I don't need to do it by myself. I only need to do my part. And I only need to do it one step at a time.

I'm still tired, and--for the moment--hungry (I haven't eaten yet) and cold (I just took Shelby for a very short walk). But this is what I have to offer this morning:

In my home, and in my heart, your name and your gender are what you tell me they are. Period. I do not have jurisdiction over much else. But where I do have power, I will hold a safe space for you. Also: if you should ever find yourself in the same public washroom as me because that is the washroom in which you feel safest, I will defend your right to be there to anyone who challenges you.

:hug: :tuzki-love::rainbow:
 

Laura Rainbow Dragon

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@Mamatigerj @JCU @Fremen @Antheia & Colossus @Syrius @Maegaranthelas Thank you!

And thank you to everyone who reached out to me privately with your support!

The intention of last Monday was, of course, to make us feel overwhelmed and too exhausted to fight. But we're not going to succumb to that, are we?
The next four years are going to be tough. But by staying vigilante, standing strong, and standing together, I think we can still be a real force for good in our world.

:heartsit:
 

Laura Rainbow Dragon

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January 22-26:

I did my Cardinal Points, Daily Hug and hiking every day.
G7, Push & Pull, and my current Program and Challenges were skipped.

I'm going to do some extra planking over the next four days in order to still complete Plank Hero within 30 days. I also plan to double up on Standing Abs. So I'll finish that one just one day late. I don't think I'll try to do any catching up on Total Body Strength, as I've too many other things I need to focus on this week. But we'll see how things go.

I did not run this past week at all (it was brutally too cold out for most of the week) or even do my alt cardio or indoor HIIT. Hiking mileage was also shorter than usual due to the weather. Total mileage for the week was 47.5 km -- but 14 km of that happened on Sunday!

The weather here this weekend was not too bad for being outside. (It was cold, but just normal January-in-Ontario cold.) Saturday I did not schedule things well enough to get out for a long hike. But Sunday Shelby and I did our 11km hike up the north branch of the TVP in the afternoon, then our 3km hike through the Village in the evening.

Our afternoon hike was wonderful! We saw all the regulars: Canada Geese, Mallards (including the big Pekin), American Gizzard Shad (still not as thick as before the flood, but still a good number alive and well, congregating together in their little alcove. A good number of mallards and geese have been congregating in the same area too. But interestingly not the mergansers, of which we have been seeing both Hooded Mergansers and Common Mergansers on the Thames this winter, and indeed saw both species again this day. I suspect the shad's inlet is providing them with protection not only in the form of warmth, but also, perhaps counter-intuitively, due to its being shallow water.

Canada Geese are grain and seed eaters. So not a threat to the shad. Mallards are omnivorous, but they eat vegetation and invertebrates. So the shad are safe from them too. But mergansers? Mergansers are fish eaters! The shad may be too large for the little Hoodies. (I'm not sure on this.) But Common Mergansers will definitely eat shad. So why am I seeing them hunting out on the open river, 20 metres away from an inlet that is so thick with a tasty lunch? I wonder if this is because mergansers are "diving ducks".

Unlike "dabbling ducks" (such as Mallards) which float around on the surface of a body of water and stick only their heads and necks under water to feed, diving ducks submerge completely and swim underwater in pursuit of their prey. It may be that this feeding mechanism is simply unavailable to them in water as shallow as the shad's inlet. [I did see one female Common Merganser lurking near the very edge of the inlet the day we were first able to access the foot bridge again after the flood, when the water level was still quite high. But unlike the Mallards, who swim in closer when they see a human hanging out on the bridge (even a human who has a large dog with her--city Mallards are quite habituated to being hand fed by humans), the merganser swam away when it saw me and Shelby. Since the water level has lowered again, however, the mergansers appear to be entirely ignoring this huge school of shad.] I will try to find out if the folks at Cornell have any further data on this topic.

There are also Herring Gulls and Bald Eagles in the area (both of which we saw on Sunday as well). But as they hunt from the sky, the vegetation overhanging the shad's inlet may be providing protection from them.

Also seen on this hike: a male Northern Cardinal who chirped happily for us, a small flock of Black-capped Chickadees, our ever-present Eastern Grey Squirrels and a friend!

I know, I know: Shelby has a great many friends. Everyone who she meets is Shelby's friend. But I am more selective in who I designate a friend, and this person is an actual friend of mine as well. He lives up in the northwest end of the city, and typically does not do long hikes like Shelby and I do. So he's not someone we expect to just bump into out on the trails. So it was a very happy coincidence to run into him down by the river forks, also out enjoying the favourable weather with another friend of his who lives in the downtown area.

So all in all, it was a great hike! But by the time we got back home, I'd had enough of being outside in the cold. So a run did not happen, in spite of the temperature having been warm enough to do one.

Our evening hike was just through our neighbourhood, where many houses still have their Christmas lights on, providing welcome displays of colour and cheer amidst the bleak midwinter. So that was a nice way to end our day.

The day had begun well too, with getting up at 6AM for gaming with @'rin and @sleep_twitch . So a great day overall!

Other stuff this past week:

Writing:
Writing was mostly correspondence. I wrote personal correspondence every day, and spent a good bit of time on it. Nothing that's going to help my bottom line as a fiction writer. But it was important to do. Actual fiction content creation last week was only one hour, split over three days. I also did some market research and attended the open office hour for my online writing group, DreamCasters.

Artwork:
Artwork was sketching. Done three days this past week.

French:
I maintained my daily French study streak with reading or Fluenz every day. I also put in a request at my local library branch to try to get the English translation of the first volume in the Les Rois Maudits (The Accursed Kings) series which @PetiteSheWolf recommended via interlibrary loan. My library has the whole series in the original French, but only two of the books in English translation. I don't think my French language skills are yet up to reading such books without an English translation to compare them to. So I'm hoping interlibrary loan will find book 1 for me.

Scheduling Habits:
These were shaky at the beginning of the week but improved towards the weekend. I earned three stars for each on Sunday.

Cumulative Habit Scores:
SOOT: 10
GBOT: 17
Gaming Rules: 11

I did not zero my GR score, even though I did do some solo gaming last week, and I did not meet my writing content creation target for the week. The gaming was not the reason for the shortfall. So I'm allowing my daily scores for the week to stand.

Streaks:
Consecutive days of working out: 140
Consecutive days of French study: 1532
 

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I can't wait for the kiddos to be big enough to go for long hikes. We're right by one of the entrances to the Cambridge to Paris Rail Trail which is not one that we would do in full as it's 18 km one way, but definitely a spot for us to check out. Once the kids are able and willing to listen to is and not dash off into the underbrush or randomly decide to go swimming in the river.

I love hearing about all the animals you see. When I worked from home I used to have a pine tree right out side my window that had black capped chickadees and dark eyed juncos in it. Wonderful company throughout the day. Probably the only thing I truly miss now that I work in an office.
 

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I can't wait for the kiddos to be big enough to go for long hikes. We're right by one of the entrances to the Cambridge to Paris Rail Trail which is not one that we would do in full as it's 18 km one way, but definitely a spot for us to check out.
Nice! That trail is popular for cycling, I believe. Definitely doable out and back on a bike. But you don't see as much nature going fast.
Hiking would be doable if you had a group with two cars. (Drop one vehicle in Paris at the start of the day, then drive everyone back to Cambridge in the other.) Or just do the trail over multiple days.

My favourite trail to hike in Rondeau was always the Marsh Trail. It's a straight out-and-back, 7km trail (14km hiking in total). That's 2.5 hours to a full day, depending on how much time one is taking to stop and admire the wildlife. Every time I've hiked that trail I've see different things on the way back than on the outward bound journey. Different species are active at different times of the day, and the position of the sun can make a difference in what you're able to see too.

You have some great urban nature trails in Cambridge. I'm more familiar with Preston than Galt, and have enjoyed hiking there in Dumfries Conservation Area, Chilligo, the Mill Run Trail, and the naturalized areas in/around Riverside Park. With a car you've a lot more options of where you can get to too.

Once the kids are able and willing to listen to is and not dash off into the underbrush or randomly decide to go swimming in the river.
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I love hearing about all the animals you see. When I worked from home I used to have a pine tree right out side my window that had black capped chickadees and dark eyed juncos in it. Wonderful company throughout the day.
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There is a cedar hedge right outside my bedroom window where I live now. Reportedly it used to be one of those frou-frou little cultivated hedges, pruned back to within an inch of its life to not rise an inch above the property line fence or stick out too far away from it. But since my landlord is trying to maximize his profits and minimize his expenses for his income properties, the hedge has been allowed to grow wild since he purchased this place. My neighbours with whom we share that property line are not happy about this. But--while you will see me gripe about my landlord's failure to provide adequate snow removal service for this property--I have zero complaints about the minimal summer land interference. I love that the hedge has been allowed to fill out and up! It's providing great habitat for birds now. (And I'm much happier to look out my bedroom window and see a cedar tree full of birds than I would be if the view as a gravel parking spot and mown grass!)
 

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In today's episode of "Promoting Science and Objective Reality (a.k.a.: the Actual Truth)" I bring you this interview with NASA astronaut and current Commander of the ISS Expedition 72, Sunita Williams.

Fellow space geeks may remember that Suni's third tenure aboard the ISS began on June 6, 2024 when she and fellow NASA astronaut Butch Wilmore arrived at the station on the first crewed flight of Boeing’s Starliner spacecraft. Due to concerns with Starliner's performance on that flight, the decision was ultimately made (after weeks of systems testing and data analysis, and in full consultation with both Suni and Butch) to return Starliner to Earth uncrewed and to reschedule Suni's and Butch's return to Earth to the spring of 2025, when they will return home aboard a SpaceX Dragon as part of NASA's SpaceX Crew-9 mission. Starliner ultimately returned to Earth safely uncrewed, landing at White Sands in New Mexico on September 7, 2024. Its departure from the ISS freed up the docking port necessary for the Crew-9 Dragon spacecraft to safely dock with the station, which it did on September 29, 2024. (i.e.: There is zero need for Trump and Musk to "rescue" Suni and Butch from the ISS. Suni and Butch are not now, nor have they ever been "stranded" aboard the ISS. Their ride home is already docked with the station and has been for four months.)

In this interview, which Suni gave from aboard the ISS in October 2024, she talks about life on the ISS, food ("the kitchen is pretty awesome"), space walks, voting from space, her views of the auroras borealis and australis, how to get people back to understanding and supporting science, and the importance of asking questions, thinking outside the box, and expanding our horizons.

“We take life a little too seriously on Earth. We get aggravated with some of the littlest, stupidest things, that really we shouldn’t. Because this is our one big planet, this is our one big place that we live. We don’t really know if anybody else lives anywhere else. So we really should all just get along. It’s amazing to me when you look down at some of the areas where there’s potentially some conflict, or even just think back to home, about traffic and people getting aggravated, it’s so silly. Honestly. We all just live on this planet. And we all should just get along. We can find compromise, we can find middle ground, if we all just stop and listen.”

- Sunita Williams​


P.S.: For the runners amongst us: In 2007, while on a previous ISS mission, Suni became the first person to run a marathon in space. << This article talks a bit about the experience, and Suni's motivations for doing it.
 
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January 27:

Cardinal Points:
First Thing Water: :v:
10 Minutes of Mindfulness: :v: - moving meditation, shavasana
Dance / Yoga: :v: - Quiet Room
Gratitude: :v:

Group of Seven:
hands & wrists: :v: - clench/unclench, wrist circles, passive stretches
calf raises: :v: - one-legged calf raises
plank: :v: - Plank Hero
feathered peacock: :v: - dolphin
hip flexors: :v: - Standing Abs
hip abductors: :v: - side-lying leg lifts
glutes: :v: - rear leg lifts

Programs & Challenges:
Daily Hug: :v:
Push & Pull: :x:
Total Body Strength: :x:
Standing Abs: Days 21-22
Plank Hero: Days 21-23

Mileage:
running: :x:
tempo runs / alt cardio: 0/3
interval training: 0/2

hiking: 5.2 km
Back to hiking in the Village, due to the weather. Saw a little masked friend (Common Raccoon) on our night walk.

Writing:
Nada.

content creation: :x:
writing days this week: 0/5
writing time: 0/10 hours
artwork: :x:
artwork days this week: 0/5

French:
Fluenz

Scheduling Habits:
GOBOT: :rstar::rstar::rstar:
SOOT: :rstar::rstar:
GBOT: :rstar::rstar::rstar:
GR: :rstar::rstar::rstar:

Cumulative Habit Scores:
SOOT: 12
GBOT: 20
Gaming Rules: 14

Streaks:
Consecutive days of working out: 141
Consecutive days of French study: 1533
 

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January 28:

Cardinal Points:
First Thing Water: :v:
10 Minutes of Mindfulness: :v: - moving meditation, shavasana
Dance / Yoga: :v: - Quiet Room
Gratitude: :v:

Group of Seven:
hands & wrists: :v: - clench/unclench, wrist circles
calf raises: :v: - one-legged calf raises, one-legged calf raise holds
plank: :v: - Plank Hero
feathered peacock: :v: - one-legged dolphin
hip flexors: :v: - Standing Abs
hip abductors: :v: - Plank Hero
glutes: :v: - one-legged glute bridges

Programs & Challenges:
Daily Hug: :v:
Push & Pull: :x:
Total Body Strength: :x:
Standing Abs: Days 23-24
Plank Hero: Days 24-26

Mileage:
running: :x:
tempo runs / alt cardio: 0/3
interval training: 0/2

hiking: 7.2 km

Writing:
Nada.

content creation: :x:
writing days this week: 0/5
writing time: 0/10 hours
artwork: sketching
artwork days this week: 1/5

French:
reading

Scheduling Habits:
GOBOT: :rstar::rstar::rstar:
SOOT: :rstar::rstar::rstar:
GBOT: :rstar:
GR: :rstar:

Cumulative Habit Scores:
SOOT: 15
GBOT: 21
Gaming Rules: 15

Streaks:
Consecutive days of working out: 142
Consecutive days of French study: 1534
 

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January 29:

Cardinal Points:
First Thing Water: :v:
10 Minutes of Mindfulness: :v: - moving meditation, shavasana
Dance / Yoga: :v: - Quiet Room
Gratitude: :v:

Group of Seven:
hands & wrists: :v: - clench/unclench
calf raises: :v: - one-legged calf raises
plank: :v: - Plank Hero
feathered peacock: :v: - dolphin
hip flexors: :v: - Standing Abs
hip abductors: :v: - Plank Hero
glutes: :v: - Plank Hero

Programs & Challenges:
Daily Hug: :v:
Push & Pull: :x:
Total Body Strength: :x:
Standing Abs: Days 25-26
Plank Hero: Days 27-29

Mileage:
running: :x:
tempo runs / alt cardio: 0/3
interval training: 2/2 *

hiking: 6 km

* With doing extra for Standing Abs and Plank Hero this week, I decided this day and Tuesday were enough to cover my interval training goals for the week.

Writing:
Research. Non-fiction writing.

content creation: :x: (Yes. But it was non-fiction.)
writing days this week: 1/5 **
writing time: 0/10 hours **
artwork: sketching
artwork days this week: 2/5

** I'm counting this as a writing day as I did spend a lot of time on writing this day, but not logging hours for content creation as it was not fiction writing.

French:
reading

Scheduling Habits:
GOBOT: :x:
SOOT: :rstar::rstar::rstar:
GBOT: :rstar::rstar::rstar:
GR: :rstar::rstar::rstar:

Cumulative Habit Scores:
SOOT: 18
GBOT: 24
Gaming Rules: 18

Streaks:
Consecutive days of working out: 143
Consecutive days of French study: 1535
 

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January 30 - February 3:

A summary post on my usual tracking stuff. Things haven't been too interesting on that front these past few days. But other things were. So I'll summarize to get caught up, then share the more pertinent stuff.

I did some form of workout every day (I am allowing really light things to count at the moment, for reasons I'll explain below) and also did my French study, gratitude practice, daily hug, and first thing water every day. Yoga and mindfulness practice happened every day but one. G7 was done on January 30 & 31 but not for the past 3 days. I've completed the Standing Abs and Plank Hero Challenges. I'm not any further along in Total Body Strength than the last time I posted. (It's not officially on hold. It doesn't involve any activities that I am deliberately avoiding at the moment. But the next day in the program includes push-ups, which I always have a high resistance to doing, and I just haven't had the bandwidth to get them done.) Running is on hold at the moment, as well all high impact activities. I'm not sure for how long.

I did artwork 4 days last week and also worked on writing content creation 4 days. (My goal for both is 5 days/week.) My butt in chair time for content creation was also low. Way low. I may have been able to hit my goals for the week if the bad thing that happened on Sunday hadn't happened. But if I hadn't wasted so much time solo gaming earlier in the week I'd have hit my goals for both anyhow. So I zeroed my Gaming Rules points for the week. As of today, my sleep schedule is still messed up as a result of Sunday. So I'm giving myself a bit of grace on my SOOT, GBOT, and GR scores in that I'm not recording negative scores at the moment. (If I miss--which I did on all metrics both Sunday night and Monday night--it's just a zero.) I will return to scoring SOOT, GBOT, and GR normally tomorrow (Wednesday).

My stats as of end of day February 3:

Cumulative Habit Scores:
SOOT: 25
GBOT: 32
Gaming Rules: 11

Streaks:
Consecutive days of working out: 148
Consecutive days of French study: 1540
 

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The More Interesting Stuff:

Thursday, January 30:

This was a great day! A friend had messaged me on Wednesday night to say he had made a cheese pie, did I want to come over and enjoy it with him and his wife (who is also my friend)? At the time I was just about to head out with Shelby for our bedtime walk and then go to bed. So I asked if they were free at any time during the day on Thursday. Which they were. So we made a lunch date for Thursday.

The pie was delicious, and the company was wonderful! Afterward my one friend was going to drive me home. (These friends live over 6km away. So a bit of a hike in the winter when I cannot use it as part of Shelby's walk.) I asked if she would drop me at the grocery store instead, as I needed to get some stuff from the store that is 4.5 km away. (In winter hiking conditions, a ride one way would save me almost an hour's hiking time.) My friend decided she would just take me to the store and drive me home afterward, since she wanted to pick up a few items too. Which saved me even more time and meant I was able to stock up on heavy staples (flour, oats, 12 cans of stewed tomatoes).

Thursday evening was the open office hour of the editor of DreamForge Magazine. This is something he ran weekly throughout December and January for members of the DreamCasters writing group. Some weeks we just chatted about general writing stuff. But he gave DreamCasters the option of sending short stories to him for review, which he would then dissect during the open office hour. This week I had sent him a story of mine which I like but which had not been hitting with editors. He gave me some very helpful feedback which I think will enable me to make the story truly shine. (And if I can sell this one story, it will be a great opening for writing a whole series of stories in this same universe. Which would be super fun for me!)

The open office hour got me to thinking about people who still engage in acts of kindness in a world which currently seems hell bent on shifting politically in an ugly and selfish direction. I think I would like to start a series of posts signal boosting acts of kindness, compassion, and cooperation carried out by ordinary humans. (By "ordinary" here I mean people who don't possess massive amounts of power. Sadly, the very act of engaging in acts of kindness these days is more and more becoming the hallmark of an extraordinary human.) Watch this space for more on this in the coming days!
 

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Friday, January 31:

This day, while researching my next episode of "Promoting Science and Objective Reality (a.k.a.: the Actual Truth)" I got sucked into watching* a seven-hour-long video on YouTube.

* I did not actually watch the entire video. Parts of it I just listened to while doing other things. But I did listen to the entire thing, and watch a good chunk of it. There were some gorgeous visuals, including a good bit of footage that features the Canadarm 2--a piece of technology near and dear to my geeky little heart. (The first Canadarm was commissioned when little Rainbow Dragon was in grade school. One of the companies involved in its design and construction had offices in the town in which I grew up. I still remember visiting Rockwell International, and the pride and excitement with which staff there shared the story of the first Canadarm and their involvement in it.)

This day we had rain in the morning and very wet snow later in the day. Not fun hiking weather at all. But Shelby and I still got out in it. During our rainy walk we met up with Marshmallow (another black lab) and Miss Betty, and their human (who was the person who told us about the local vets). She asked how it had gone with getting Shelby set up with a vet here, so I was able to tell her it went great and to thank her for the recommendation.
 

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Saturday, February 1:

Overnight Friday>Saturday the temperature dropped again. Which meant all of Friday's rain and wet snow turned to ice on the ground. Not. Fun. Still, I finally made it out to a meeting of SF London (a science fiction and fantasy book/discussion group). I had just begun to get involved with SF London at the tale end of my previous tenure in London. But when I ended up moving out to the Booming Metropolis, and it became clear I wasn't going to be returning to London anytime soon, the costs of travelling back here to attend a book club became untenable, so I dropped out.

I hadn't managed to get a hold of the book for this month's discussion until a day and a half before the meeting. So I hadn't been able to read much of it. But a friend of mine was the presenter this month, so I'd promised to go to support him.

There were a few faces at the meeting who I remembered from 17 years ago (although I did not remember anyone's names until they gave them in the introduction round of the discussion). I don't know if anyone there remembered me. (No one told me they did. But my friend told me he'd mentioned me at a previous meeting since I've been back in London and some of the people at that meeting did remember me.)

Anyhow... it was an interesting meeting with a fairly typical SF fan crowd: intelligent, opinionated, friendlyish, but lacking the social skills to think to invite the newcomer to their after meeting dinner in a local pub. (Even though I stayed after the meeting to ask how I could get on the group email list--which was mentioned several times during the meeting and which no one thought to invite me to join either.) I knew through my friend that people were in the habit of going out for food after the meetings, and had already decided I wasn't going to go as I a.) needed to get back home to Shelby, b.) am not so much into eating in restaurants this time of year with all of the respiratory viruses in circulation in the community, c.) wanted to get home before dark due to all the ice, and d.) cannot really afford to eat in restaurants anyhow. Still: it would have been nice to have been invited.

Ah well. SF geekdom is what it is. I'll probably go back again.
 

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Sunday, February 2 - The Not Great Day:

Sunday started out bright and early and happily, gaming via TTS and Discord with @'rin and @sleep_twitch . Then things took a turn for the worse.

Remember that rain I told you about on Friday?
Remember how it had all turned to ice by Saturday?
Well... during my morning walk with Shelby on Sunday, all of that ice connected with my skull in an impactful and thoroughly unpleasant way.

Yep. I wiped out on the ice. Hit my head. Hard. So hard that I momentarily forgot where I live and why I live here.

I never let go of Shelby's lead. So I don't think I blacked out. (Or, if I did, it was only for a moment.) But when I got back on my feet again afterward and looked around, I recognized that I was in Wortley Village but did not understand why I was in Wortley Village. I estimate it took me about a minute before I remembered that my father had died and my mother lives in a long term care home now and that was why Shelby and I had had to move.

So that was scary and not fun. But I did not experience dizziness or nausea or slurred speech or muscle weakness or any other signs of a serious TBI, and my cognitive functions returned to normal after that first minute of disorientation and amnesia. So I think I have only a mild concussion and also some mild whiplash.

After we made it back home I went online and ordered myself some crampons for my boots. Because we live in rental housing now, I have no choice but to walk Shelby every day, regardless of the conditions outside. (Technically I could allow her to do her business on the lawn here, then leave her in the apartment while I take a walk solo to dispose of her offerings. But I need to take at least a couple of walks every day regardless. And I'm the one who slipped on the ice and hit my head.) Then I looked up the website of my local MPP and signed up to volunteer for her re-election campaign.

This day I also ate the last apple I will ever be able to eat from Kendal's apple tree.

I've never been one to fuss over the remains of dead friends. When my paternal grandparents (who followed us to Canada) died, they were cremated. But I have no idea what happened to their ashes after that. When my friend Loretta died, I was only able to attend her memorial service via Zoom, due to pandemic restrictions. I have no idea what happened to her remains. When my father died, he was cremated, and his son scattered his ashes in Algonquin Park. (We all agreed that was a suitable disposition for his ashes, but I felt no need to participate in the scattering myself.) When my childhood dog, Sheba, died, my parents had her buried in the backyard of the home she had lived in with us, in Milton, and had a cherry tree planted over her remains. They later sold that house and moved out to the Booming Metropolis. I actually did feel a bit weird about them "leaving Sheba behind" like that. Although, at the time she died, I was grateful I'd been able to visit and spend time with Sheba just before she passed. (She actually got up off her blanket and came to see me when she heard me arrive at the door--the only time she got out of bed that day, and I think the last time she got out of bed at all.) But when she was gone, she was gone. When I visited my parents at that house on subsequent occasions I didn't "visit" with Sheba at her cherry tree, or even think much about the fact that she'd been buried under it. But when Kendal died...

When Kendal died, I planted the apple tree over her remains myself. Kendal had been my parents' dog, who they basically gave to me when I lost my job in London (due to my employer's husband having been arrested for stalking me). Kendal was there for me through some extremely difficult times, to say the least, including my having to sell my house in London. Kendal then returned to the Booming Metropolis, when I ended up moving out there myself and staying to help my parents.

My parents had had another apple tree on that property: a huge one that dropped thousands of apples a year in its heyday. Kendal often came outside to be with me while I was collecting the apples. But unlike her brother (not her biological brother, but another yellow lab my parents had gotten a couple of years before they got Kendal, and who Kendal had lived with for the first 9 years of her life, until he died) who used to gorge himself on as many apples as he could find when my mother would let him out in that yard, (This was before I lived there. My mother had to go out first and harvest all of the apples herself before letting the dogs out. Because Ashton would eat literally every apple she left on the ground, to the point of making himself sick if she left too many.) Kendal used to wander around the entire yard, carefully inspecting all of the fallen apples, until she found one that was to her liking, which she would then bring to me. (She almost always picked a good one too: big and juicy and relatively free of worms.) Then I would take the apple inside and wash it, core it, and cut it up into slices. And Kendal and I would share the apple, with Kendal taking her slices daintily, like the little lady she was. The day Kendal died, she sat in my lap, and we shared an apple together (and also with my parents), before my mother and I took her to the vets' to say goodbye. Sharing apples was our thing.

So when Kendal died--just as surely as scattering my father's ashes in Algonquin had been the obvious choice for him--planting an apple tree over Kendal's had been the obvious choice for her. But it meant that Kendal remained a part of my life, in a sense, even after she was gone. Because every time I ate an apple from that tree, it felt like a gift from her, like we were still "sharing" it.

Leaving that apple tree behind was the hardest part about leaving the Booming Metropolis for me. (My mother lives in another city now, my father's ashes were scattered in a different place, far away, and I didn't even ask to get Trudy's ashes back from the crematorium when she died--I was already thinking then about the fact I'd need to leave that property one day, and I didn't want to have the feeling of leaving a piece of Trudy behind there, like I'd already realized I was going to feel with Kendal.) Thankfully, I was able to harvest the tree one last time before moving here. I brought many of those apples to London with us, and the first time I broke bread with friends (the friends of the cheese pie luncheon I wrote of above) in Shelby's and my new home, it was a crumble I had made with apples from Kendal's tree.

I know it's silly. Kendal died in 2013. She's been gone for a long time. But she was a huge support to me during my previous exodus from London. It meant something to me to be able to, symbolically, bring a piece of her back to London when I finally moved back here. It meant something to me to have been able to share that first apple crumble here with the friends who had been huge supports to me (both emotionally and practically) during the tumultuous times of my eventual return to London too. And now that is all over.

At least I still have my memories. Hitting my head on the ice, thankfully, did not rob me permanently of any of them.
 
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